“Content; What happens around us. Processing; What happens inside of us.”
I have clients who come to my room and say, “He didn’t call me back, how rude? “I can’t stand when my friend keeps bringing up her ex it is so annoying, right?” “Don’t people just suck, I know this world is going down the drain?” They all come and sit and start expressing themselves and want me to say, “Yes, you are so right.” Unfortunately, some find them find themselves in a place where they are challenged for the first time ever…
My response is, I can see how frustrated how you are, for the guy who didn’t call you back, “What does this action say about this person, or what form of control do you have over this? For your friend, do you set boundaries in conversation? If you feel this world is going down the drain, are you possibly dealing with depression currently? It is easy to allow your session to turn into a venting hour but true change is when the processing at its core takes a shift. When we make a change inside ourselves the world doesn’t change but everything starts to “feel” different, so in return everything around us will “look” different. This is when real change happens.